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National Girlfriends Day – An Interview with The Beijos Ladies

Today is a very important holiday, National Girlfriends Day!!!  This is like the holy grail of those crazy weird holidays I never knew about.  I mean really, what would any of us ladies do without our girlfriends?!  For me life wouldn’t be half as fun, that’s for sure.  I can honestly say that I think one of the best things about being a girl is just that, having girlfriends!  Guys really don’t know what they’re missing out on!

In celebration of this day I thought it would be fun for us Beijos ladies to talk about our friendships with each other.  This lets you guys learn a little bit more about each of us and how we tick.  Because let’s face it, without our friendship Beijos wouldn’t be Beijos!!

Photos by Carlie Statsky

Jacquelyn

How did you meet Abby & Leah?

I met Abby my freshman year of high school, I was a public school transfer to high school and only had one friend coming into the school.  Lucky for me, her and her friends thought I was cool enough to hang out with, haha!  We’ve been friends ever since, going on over 20 years of friendship!  Leah and I met working at a boutique together right out of college.  She was actually my boss at first and sort of intimidating, but after one fateful night out we were fast friends.  Fast forward over 10 years later and we are god mothers to each others children!

Tell us something you admire about Abby…

There are lots of things I admire about Abby, one is that she is a really great mom.  She loves her kids more than anything and really tries to do her best every day for them.  Another thing I admire about her is how thoughtful she is to others.  It’s something that has stuck out to me since High School.  When we were younger she took care of a boy with special needs, which took a lot of patience and care.  She also always made an effort to visit me or keep in touch with me when I moved away for college which kept our friendship strong, something I’m really grateful for.

 What is something you know about Leah that may surprise people…

Leah is very mellow and down to earth when you meet her, but this girl has a wild side!  She does not shy away from a good time!!  Something I learned the very first time we went out together on that fateful night.  I had thought, oh this girl and I probably won’t be friends, she seems kind of quiet…. Boy was I wrong when I saw her in her element!!  Although we have calmed down with having kids, I know my bestie still has it in her to get a little crazy…. In a good way!

What is something you have a girl crush on Leah for?

Well, she looks like Eva Mendes which is a huge girl crush thing right there!!  I’d also say her legs, Leah has great legs and should probably show them off more!  I also love her hair and am always envious of her clothing collection!

If the three of you were attacked in a dark alley, who would you all hide behind?

Well definitely not Abby because she’s like 5 feet tall, haha!  I think I’d be the most feisty and probably get shanked because of it.  I’m gonna have to go with Leah here because she would probably be the most level headed but also the most mama bear out of the three of us!

Who’s the Monica, who’s the Rachel and who’s the Phoebe?

I could have gone a lot of different directions here but I’m going to say Abby is the Monica – she is pretty crazy when it comes to anything she does and totally over thinks things.  I could also see Abby as a former fatty and chef because she loves food, haha!  Leah is Rachel because she has great hair, loves clothes and is super loyal.  She would be the one to work for Ralph Lauren and have a haircut everyone tries to copy.  I’m Phoebe because I think I’m the most free spirited believe it or not, and I could definitely picture myself singing Smelly Cat to a crowd… And I think I’m kind of the weirdest, haha!  One thing though, I would never run like Phoebe does, hahahahahaha!

Abby

How did you meet Jacquelyn & Leah?

    I have known Jacquelyn since our freshmen year in high school. Been good buds ever since. I met Leah thru Jacquelyn during our college years (their college years, I pretended I went to college, ha! JK I did!) and became closer with her when we started Beijos. 

What is your favorite memory of Jacquelyn from High School?

Loaded question! How can I possibly pick one favorite memory! I’m sure you could only imagine the trouble us two got into. Well.. I’ll 1st let you in on that we are members of the BHB club, a prestigious club we started in high school. It was a group that would gather weekly to watch and discuss a very important and groundbreaking television show… it’s called Beverly Hills, 90210. :) One of the best memories that I will let out of the vault, is that Jacquelyn has a full dance routine choreographed by herself to the popular early 2000 dance jam, the thong song. 
 
If you could describe Leah in 3 words what would they be? Oh Leah, this girl can’t be described in three words. She is one of the best people I’m proud to call a friend. She is extremely kind, a natural perfectionist, and very reliable for always sharing a bottle of wine or two with. 

 What is one thing you have a girl crush on Jacquelyn for?

   I have two, her hair cause it grows so freaking fast and it has a natural curl, and her lips! I have no upper lip, and she has herself a full pout that only non upper lippers could only dream about. 

 If you were all at a nude beach who would be the first to take the plunge?

 Oh definitely Jacquelyn! Hands down. Duh. 

 Who’s the Brenda, who’s the Kelly and who’s the Donna?

 Oh tough one. I’m gonna say I’m Brenda cause well she is has tendencies to over analyze things (guilty), and also is up for a good time! Good time Sally! Jacquelyn is totally Kelly… always thinking she is the popular one ;) , and Leah is Donna. Everyone loves her, not crazy, and always a friend you can rely on.  She basically evens outs the craziness that Brenda and Kelly can create. 

Leah

How did you meet Jacquelyn & Abby? 

I met Jacquelyn working at a clothing boutique in Newport when I was a youngster in my formative 20’s.  We hit it off pretty quickly and it’s been history ever since.  I met Abby through Jacquelyn, since they went to school together.  We are all pretty normal and easy going with a lot in common as far as design and taste go, so there you go… a fun loving little trio!

What is something you know about Jacquelyn that may surprise people? 

She’s a total tomboy.  Yup, not afraid to play with the boys, and she’s actually better than most of them.

If you could describe Abby in 3 words what would they be?Creative, thoughtful, and an easy target for us to make fun of hehe, love you Ab!!

What is one thing you have a girl crush on Abby for?

Her ability to style food.  My god is she great at that or what?? One of the best I’ve seen right there!!

Out of the three of you, who is most likely to get lost while driving?I think Abby! haha

Who’s the Kim, who’s the Kourtney and who’s the Khloe? 

I’m gonna say I’m the Kourtney, Jacquelyn is Kim and Abby is Khole.  

And there you have it!  A little bit more about us, our friendship and how we tick!  Make sure you call your best girlfriends today and tell them you love them! Better yet, toast to them with a glass of wine!!  Because National Girlfriends Day is definitely Beijos approved!

 xx
 
Jacquelyn

 

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By on August 1, 2017 in MEET THE BEIJOS GALS, REAL TALK

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At Home with the Miniellos

It was, a sunny weekday morning where I met Meghann Miniello for the 1st time at Peets coffee to chat about working with her. We had a love for rose gold hair and wine, and it was instant friends from there. This lady is crazy talented, beautiful, and she has so much love for her friends and family, and you can see that in the way she is with her little mini, Franki James and her cool hubby, Matt. They are the coolest family around, and they are expecting another mini in a matter of days. I can’t get enough of this family and want them to be my parents! She is sharing her feelings on becoming a family of four, and how her world will change with another mini on the way. Meg, Matt, and Miss Frankie did a little photo session in their cute Santa Cruz bungalow to capture moments of the last day as a family of three. There is so much love with this family, and I’m so excited to share with you!  I hope you fall in love with this family as much as I have. 

 Meg, you have the biggest heart in the world, and I’m so honored to not only work with you all the time but call you a friend. I can’t wait to see what this little mini will be. 

Pictures by BFF, Natalie Dressed 

Baby #2, nervous, scared, not real yet, how are you feeling?

 Not so much nervous or scared, but it’s starting to feel real as the due date approaches (July 12th).  I’m not anxious quite yet because I am still finishing up projects- but I know the nesting bug is coming!  I’ve got a LONG list of house DIYs and Daddy-dos.
 
 
  I know you guys are waiting to find out the gender of this little mini, do you find it hard not knowing?
 
I LOVE not knowing.  The anticipation and lead up to finding out the best news ever is the best part. We waited with our daughter too, although we totally knew she was a girl.  It was so much fun to drive our family and friends nuts guessing!
 
We know you have something up your sleeve for the baby’s room, you gonna let us in on the deets?
 
We’ve created a little spot in our room for babe while he/she is tiny and we are still in the continuous feeding phase.  But after a few months, if we are ready to transition, Mini 2 will be sharing a room with Frankie girl.  So, if the baby is a girl, we are good to go, but if mini is a boy I am definitely going to have to remove some of the pink. Luckily I started with a neutral palette of whites, tans, natural textiles and woods so it shouldn’t be too hard.  I would like to stay with the California, eclectic, artsy and sentimental vibe with pops of fun color.  Frankie will be getting a big girl bed soon and baby will move into the crib when we’re ready.  I shared a room as a kid, so I am ok with having my kiddos develop that same bonding time while they are little.  Just a little terrified about how bedtime will work… open to any and all suggestions or advice!!
 
How does Frankie feel about all this?
 
Frankie seems to be excited about having a new baby sister or brother.  We read “The New Baby,” a book given to me as a kid when my little sister was added to our family, and she loves it!  She loves babies but is not a fan of when I hold the other babies… so that should be interesting.  I think there will be a major transition period, but ultimately I think she’ll love having a built in playmate!  She gives my belly kisses and talks about “baby seeser” so I think that’s her prediction!
 
 
Do you have reservations about being a family of 4 and still being able to juggle family and work?
 
I have reservations about having even more on my plate, but I know it will all work out, and things will naturally align and prioritize themselves!  Somehow, more time always surfaces, and I can keep up the juggle. It’s not always pretty and clean, but people get fed, dogs get walked, and work gets done. The house is not always clean though, but you win some, and you lose some!  I had a little break down the other day about losing my alone buddy time with Frankie girl because I cherish it so so much, but everyone tells me your heart just grows and it works.  So I am trying to spend as much time with her now and make really special memories while I can.
 
 Any names picked out yet, any hints?
 
We THINK we’ve decided.  The middle name is still up in the air, but we are close!  Ok, so the one hint I’ll share is that we have ONE name that works if the baby is a boy or girl!
 
How has this pregnancy been different than with Frankie?
 
Chasing a toddler has made this pregnancy a little harder. I don’t have the luxury of all the naps I took when I was pregnant the first time.  Physically it’s about the same though.  I don’t experience morning sickness but I have heartburn like woah.  Pineapple is my ultimate nemesis!!  Frankie girl is a good eater, so she has some junk in her trunk and its getting really hard to lift her and of course she wants to be held all the time right now. Funny how those things work like that.

I can’t wait to meet mini #2! Thanks for sharing these special moments with us Meg!

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By on July 3, 2017 in PREGNANCY, REAL TALK, SPOTLIGHT

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Life with Two Boys and Winter Water Factory

Most of the time when people see me out and about with my two boys they say “Oh, you have your hands full!”  I must admit, they are right.  Having two kids is a big jump from one, anyone will agree I’m sure.  But having two boys is a whole other ball game.  Other moms I talk to with boys can relate.  Don’t get me wrong, girls can be tough too I’m sure, and it of course depends on the child.  But my two are full of tons of energy and wildness which makes life with two boys very interesting.

Photos by Nea Nabayan

Clothing by Winter Water Factory

Every day is an adventure with these two.  Court is now three, and well, he’s definitely a three-nager.  He loves to dress up and pretend, his imagination is endless.  Most days we play super heroes, he never tires of it.  There is a different costume he is obsessed with and won’t leave the house without every day, right now it’s Spider Man.  

His energy seems to never run out!  I’m embarrassed to admit, but sometimes, (like last night) he doesn’t fall asleep till around 10pm.  He’s our little energizer bunny!!  He loves life fully and whenever I ask “what do you want to do today” I get the same answer – “PLAY!”  Court is strong willed and determined in everything he does.  Which also makes for some interesting days, and sometimes tantrums.  My husband and I are trying to manage those as they come, but wow, they can really turn you upside down!

With all of the craziness, he’s also extremely loving…  That’s something most boy moms I know say.  Yes they are wild and crazy, but boy do they love hard.  I get lots of hugs, even if they do start as tackles, and kisses.  So in that way, life with two boys can be pretty amazing.  Last night he told me I was his favorite person to play with, and the cuddles and “I love you”‘s are abundant.  He still asks me to carry him to bed, and sometimes I have both of them in my arms at once.   This is not easy going up and down stairs considering I found out today he weighs 37 lbs and Cruz has to be around 20!  

I’m trying to soak in all of the good stuff so it out-weighs the hard toddler stuff.  Plus, if I can pocket it all up and have it stored in my memory it will help dealing with him when he’s a teenager and doesn’t want anything to do with me.  Am I the only mom who thinks about things like that?  I think about my sons as adults and how I won’t be able to hug and kiss them like I do now, it’s depressing… Maybe I’m a weirdo, haha!

Now Cruz… Cruz started out as such a mellow guy, and well, he’s not!  I thought, wow, this time I got an easy one!  No, this guy is such a love but he’s busy like his brother.  I guess it may be a little bit of monkey see, monkey do over here.  He is very mobile, crawling and walking along everything.  I wouldn’t be surprised if he started walking within the next month or so.  He will be 9 months next week!  Court started walking at 9 months too…  I don’t wish early walkers on anyone!

He’s at the age where everything is going in his mouth, so we have to be extra careful!  Big brother has an affinity for legos, which is just awesome (emoji eye roll).  Cruz still doesn’t sleep through the night, however I’m still breastfeeding him… Maybe that’s why, but both of my boys weren’t good sleepers ever.  The one thing Cruz is doing well at?!  Eating!  Court is still tough with eating, Cruz however loves it!  That has been a relief and lots of fun to see him try new foods and actually like them!

Another Cruz thing… He gives hugs!!  Like really good and long ones, they are the best!  Plus, can you believe that blonde hair?!  Like what in the world?!

Cruz loves his brother so intensely, it’s amazing to see the way he looks in awe at him.  I can’t wait till they are big enough to play together!!  We did their first bath together the other night, mostly because I can’t bathe Court without Cruz getting into some type of trouble while I do!  It’s so fun to see them interact with each other, I can only imagine the type of trouble these two will cause… They are both just too smart for their own good.

When I was young I used to say that I only wanted boys – two boys to be exact.  I don’t know why I said that, maybe because I was a bit of a tomboy.  I know I thought life with two boys would be fun, which it definitely is!  I’ve been saying I want more… I’m not so sure these days.  Life with these two is keeping me awfully busy!  I love the idea of adding a girl to our tribe, but I would probably have another boy.  Which in all honesty, I wouldn’t be upset about.

Another great thing about having two boys is making them wear matching outfits, haha!  This is something I NEVER thought I’d get excited about.  Now I know why my mom did it to my sister and I, it’s addicting!  Winter Water Factory has been one of my favorite brands for my boys, even when Court was a baby.  

They have the best prints, great boy and girl options, and it’s all made in the US.  Their prints are like amazing art work that I would have in my home, I love them!  They even make cute dresses for moms, so I can get in on the fun too!  Everything is an organic cotton and it’s so yummy and durable.  They wash well and stay in great condition wear after wear.  I can’t recommend them enough!

 To sum it up, with all of the craziness, adventuring with these two is my favorite thing ever.  Add in their daddy and it’s even better.  Life with two boys seems hectic now, and I’m sure it will get even crazier.  I think the lack of sleep is tough these days, but I manage!  I’m excited for new adventures with them and to watch them grow.  Seeing our little one’s minds and personalities develop is just the best, I am lucky I get to watch these two!

xx

Jacquelyn

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By on May 18, 2017 in BEIJINHOS, BEIJINHOS STYLE, FAMILY, KIDS, LIFESTYLE, REAL TALK

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Real Talk – The Latest

It’s been a while since we have done a real talk post, so today is just that.  There have been a lot of changes in all of our lives this past year.  We wanted to let you know the latest with each of us and check in with you.  Each of our little families have a lot going on, so keep reading to find out more!

Abby

Hi, friends, Abby here! My goodness, a lot has occurred in my life in the past six months. About a year ago, my husband approached me with the crazy idea to sell our home in San Jose and move up north to the Sacramento area.  This idea was coming from Mr. San Jose.  A nickname that our family and friends call my husband.  Anytime we go anywhere; there will be someone my husband knows.  When we went to Cabo for our honeymoon in 2010, he ran into two people he knew.   My first reaction was NOT happening.  No way was I going to uproot my two kids and move them where we would have no friends or family.  We live so near to some of our family, how can we go somewhere where we would have no one near us?   Needless to say, I shut that idea down fast. But he knew my weakness by showing me the custom homes.  Damnit!  He knows me too well.  Pushing this idea for several months, I finally went with him to see the model homes.  My tune had changed, and before I knew it… the for sale sign was up. This was just the easy part.

We then moved into my parent’s house, and my husband landed a great job in Sacramento.  My daughter is in 1st grade, and we couldn’t pull her out of school.  So for the past four months, I have been staying at my parents with the two little ones.  We get to see daddy for about 36 hours on the weekends.  Just that small amount of time with him has been hard for us.  We started doing family date nights when dad gets into town on Friday nights.  Something to look forward to during the week, and its a constant plan and normalcy for the kids.  It has been a hard life adjustment for us, particularly for myself.  Pretty much a single parent is some hard shit, to be honest.  You have to keep it together during this life change and show no sadness or frustration in front of the kids.  I just have to keep saying to myself, only a couple more months to go.  Abby, this will all be worth it in the end.  Will it?  Was all this worth it?  Are my kids going to transfer well to a new school and make friends?  A lot of uncertainty and the unknown has filled my head the past couple months.  I’m a worry wart!  But, I’m staying positive and very much looking forward to June. Summer can’t come soon enough for us!  I do have to say that I’m beyond excited to decorate and design our new home.  So many ideas, and can’t wait to see how it comes all together.  In the meantime, if you are local to the Rocklin area, let’s be friends!

Jacquelyn

Hey all!  So…. 2016 was a big year for the Kazas family!  Obviously, the best part of 2016 was welcoming our son Cruz!!  Adding another baby to the mix obviously makes things crazier but we had some other things going on too…  My husband Nate finally landed a job he had been working towards as a medical device sales rep at the beginning of last year.  We were beyond excited and I am still beyond proud of him.  Since then he has gotten promoted, faster than anyone in his division ever has, yes I’m bragging and I don’t care, ha!  The first year of his job was all about him dedicating all of his energy and time, which meant being on call 24/7.  This wasn’t only a sacrifice for him but for our family as well.  It’s always especially hard since we don’t have any family nearby to help us out, although we are very lucky with how often our parents visit to help us.  There I was super pregnant with a wild 2 year old spending most days and nights solo.  It got especially hard when 2 weeks before my due date he had to go to NYC for work for 10 days…. That was definitely NOT easy!  Thank god for my Mom helping out!  Needless to say, we got through that tough year and this year is looking bright!

Like I said, Nate was promoted and he’s doing really well!  He’s still gone quite a bit, but I’m being super mom holding down the fort as much as I can.  A lot of days that means doing it all – going to the grocery store with two kids, going to the park with two kids and a dog, having dinner ready, bathing both kids, putting both kids to sleep, you get where I’m going with this…  But on the really exciting front, we bought our first home!!!  We just closed escrow a few weeks ago and now we are starting to do a little bit of remodeling.  We’re working on the kitchen and a few other small things, the rest we will have to work on slowly but surely.  We are very excited to start this new chapter, our new house is about 5 miles from our current home, not too far, but still a change.  We’ll miss our amazing neighbors and being able to walk to the beach, but our new house is on a really family friendly street right next to a park and I know our boys will love it!  Right now if I’m being honest, I’m feeling pretty overwhelmed with all of the home stuff, but I know it will all work out and I’m incredibly excited to share it with you!  Stay tuned…

Leah

Hey there!  Well, I don’t have as much change going on these days other than the fact of balancing life with 3 kids, which doesn’t seem that hard when you think of it but factor in 2 of them being under 2!  Isla just turned 20 months a few weeks ago and Henry 6 months.  I know it should get easier as they get older but right now it’s all hands on deck.  I’m lucky my husband is able to work from home a lot, so he helps me!!  There are times when I’m alone with all three of them and it’s no joke!! My daughter Edie is turning 5 soon and she is a big help to mommy and daddy with the babies, but she is a little girl herself that needs attention and time, so it all has to be taken in and divided up equally right??  Haha let’s just say I live a life of exhaustion, but I guess I don’t harp on that as much because these little beings show me what life is all about everyday and I’m so beyond grateful for them!!

The other thing that is exciting is that I’m busy with Beijos!!  Us Beijos gals put in a collaborative effort in our own way and time to make it what it is and I’m super proud of what it’s become and growing to be.  I love all of our clients, and can’t wait for their events to come to fruition this year and of course share them with you all!!  Sorry I don’t have more to dish but hey life is steady and good!

More to come!!  Head to our Instagram for 5 fun facts about each of us today!

xx

Beijos

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By on February 17, 2017 in MEET THE BEIJOS GALS, REAL TALK

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Real Talk – Breastfeeding

Breastfeeding has become a hot topic, and today we are doing some real talk on it.  As a mother you hear many different opinions on many different things but breastfeeding is always one of them.  Every mama has their own experience and way of doing things and Leah and I are perfect examples of that.  We each have had completely different experiences with breastfeeding and we wanted to share them with you.

 The funny thing is, we both have felt pressured or ridiculed for our experiences.  This is something that moms face day in and day out.  Leah and I wanted to share our own experience and say that no matter what you do, as long as you’re trying your best, you’re doing ok!  Us moms need to stick together and support each other because let’s face it, our job isn’t easy and it’s probably the most scrutinized.

So here are each of our stories and some great breastfeeding products we recommend along the way!  We’d love to keep this conversation going and hear what you have to say on the subject and your experience.

Photos of Jacquelyn by Megan Welker


Jacquelyn

I remember being pregnant with Court and being nervous if I would be able to breastfeed.  I already felt the pressure then with my first baby on the way.  My friends had varied experiences and I remember thinking, I just want to try and get to 6 months!  That was my goal!!  Some of my friends had to supplement and I had a few friends of friends who nursed for a really long time. At the time I thought, ok, that’s weird…  I remember another friend saying “if they can ask for it, then you’ve gotta stop”, haha…  Little did I know how my breastfeeding experience would go.

– Jacquelyn is wearing a nursing sweater by BOOB

When I had Court I found that I sort of had a gift for this breastfeeding thing!  I produced A LOT of milk, like a lot a lot!!  I was able to pump and store a good amount of milk, and was even able to donate it to a friend who couldn’t nurse her baby and to my local hospital.  But best of all, I was able to nurse Court and feed him without having to supplement.  Court grew and grew, and I still find it amazing that he was completely nourished by me!

Another fun fact… I loved to breastfeed!  That was something I had always heard mixed feelings on from other friends.  But I personally loved it.  It was my special time with my baby and the time I felt the most connected with him.  When we had company over I loved sneaking away for some quiet time with Court.  And the way your baby touches your face while you breastfeed them, is there really anything better?!

– Jacquelyn’ favorite nursing bra is by Bravado Designs and you can find it here

Time passed and I surpassed my 6 month goal.  Then a year hit, my doctor was so proud of me for continuing to breastfeed for that long.  I thought I would stop then, but Court still wanted to nurse!  Who was I to deny my son this amazing super food if I had the capability to give it to him?  I’ll be honest, it wasn’t always easy.  As many of you know breastfeeding can be hard and it’s a selfless act.  We give up our bodies for 9 long months being pregnant and continue to do so when we breastfeed.  But in a completely selfish way, I still loved having this connection so we kept it up.

– Jacquelyn is using a nursing pillow cover by Woolf with Me

I breastfed Court till I became pregnant with Cruz.  So for 21 long months I fed that little guy and don’t regret it one bit.  There were good times; like how he barely ever got sick and still hardly ever gets sick which I credit to breastfeeding and our amazing bonding time.  And there were bad times; don’t get me started on the biting phase, and weaning wasn’t easy and broke my heart.  My dad even joked sometimes “are you going to be breastfeeding him at his high school graduation” haha!

Speaking of the jokes, I heard a lot different opinions about my breastfeeding… Some positive but a lot negative.  Luckily I can say that I’m the type of person that doesn’t really care what others think… Don’t get me wrong, I definitely can be sensitive, but in this case I was so confident in my decision that it didn’t matter.  But I did get my fair share of eye rolls and looks of complete shock.  Lots of jokes were made about it from family, friends and strangers.

But in the end I’m really proud of myself for nursing Court that long.  Yes, he was almost 2, and yes he could ask for it, yes he would even pick which boob he wanted, but in my heart and my mind he needed it.

– Jacquelyn is wearing a nursing tank and leggings by BOOB

When I became pregnant with Cruz I again worried, would it be as easy this time?  Would Cruz latch quickly and feed as well?  Would I produce as much?  Did Court suck me dry?  Haha… Lots of questions popped into my mind.  Luckily we haven’t had any hiccups and Cruz is nursing well and my milk is still coming in strong again.  Ultimately I did what worked for me and what was best for my situation.  I have no judgements if someone can’t nurse as long or can’t nurse at all!  Everyone has to do what is best for them, their family and their baby.

Breastfeeding is such a personal part of being a mom and it’s such a short part of it too.  Why set judgement or have stress on something that in the long run only defines such a short time of your journey as a mom?  My advice is to see how it goes and make any adjustments as needed but don’t stress yourself out over not having enough or having too much.  As long as you give that baby love and nourish them however you need to it will all work out!


Leah Carriger

When I first got prego with my first Edie back in 2011, I knew I wanted to breastfeed…hands down that’s what was happening.  I never really thought about the struggles that came with it for some reason.  She was born almost 6 weeks early and that’s when the ball dropped on me.  Her birth was traumatic and very stressful.  I had her at 10:15 in the evening and was so sick after I had her.  I remember them wheeling me back up to my room and her staying in her little incubator down in the NICU.  The next thing I remember is waking up in my room and telling my hubby we needed to go down so I could breastfeed her!!  I was frantic.  When I got down there the nurses had already fed her formula and I was upset that they didn’t ask me first. I get it… there was a lot going on and at the moment they were doing what was best for her, but again, it wasn’t part of the plan.  I nursed her as much as could the next 10 days, but it was so difficult because she was in the NICU and I had to pump, which was also depressing.  I could see the amount of milk I was producing and it was such a little amount.  Now I look back I think about how hard I was on myself.  I was a brand new mom, learning it all for the very first time and super stressed that my new little babe was in the NICU.  Stressed I wasn’t producing enough milk for her, and pumping never helped the situation.  After about 2 months of what seemed like killing myself over it, breast feeding her for so long and then supplementing because she was still hungry, I literally felt like I was feeding her 24/7!!  I finally threw in the towel, and after I did I felt so much better.  I was harboring so much guilt for not being able to feed her, I felt like I failed.  But I finally felt like it was ok…I was still a good mommy and I was doing the best I could.

– Leah’s pajamas are by BOOB

Fast forward to my second and It was a little better since I knew what I was getting into, although I still had high hopes for myself.  A similar situation happened with Isla and she had to be in the NICU as well, but only for 3 days. This time around I was a little better prepared with the pumping and making sure I woke up every 3 hours to make a trip down to the NICU so I could feed her.  This time I also got a lactation nurse, which was a good refresher.  Then we got home and that night she wouldn’t stop screaming.  My husband suggested that she was probably hungry and I didn’t even think about that because I had been feeding her a lot!  But sure enough, I made her a bottle and she calmed down.  Cue the mom guilt again, but this time it wasn’t as intense.  I was still determined to go longer than I did with Edie.  I was definitely more relaxed and not as hard on myself.

– Leah’s nursing essential is this nursing tank by Bravado Designs you can layer under anything –

Then my experience with this little guy was different because fortunately he didn’t have to be in the NICU and it made a world of difference having him in my room with me.  He nursed for the first four days and we bonded perfectly.  On the 4th day though, the nurse suggested I give him formula because he was losing so much weight.  It was definitely disheartening, but it was ok.  Supplementing was all I knew.  I was still going to breastfeed him as much as I could and I was ok with that and so was he.

– Leah is wearing leggings by BOOB

For me it wasn’t so much the judgement, as it was me being hard on myself.  I couldn’t help it at first.  I needed to experience the struggle for me to be able to look back and see the bigger picture.  I did the best that I could and I was proud of myself.  I still bonded beautifully with each of my littles even though it was more through bottle feeding than breastfeeding.

My advise it just to relax.  It’s so hard when you have a baby and the pressure is intense, but just slow down and take in the moment of the miracle that was just created.  That is by far one of the best things life can offer.

Hope you got something out of this personal post… As parents we are all trying to do our best and none of us want to feel stressed or judged at such a special time.  Breastfeeding or feeding your baby can be amazing no matter what.  We wish all of you mamas and mamas to be the best experience that is perfect for you.

xx

Jacquelyn

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