Through-out the year I’ve posted about self care, and how important it is for us ladies. It all started in January with a post I did with Dr. Cassidy Freitas, a licensed marriage and family therapist. After having my second son last year I realized how us moms really lacked in the self care department. I vowed to make adjustments and resolutions to that this year. Fast forward and I have found different ways to care for myself this year. From massages, to working out, to spending time with my girlfriends, it’s been eye opening.
Cassidy and I have been wanting to carry this discussion on with other mamas we know. I reached out to my friend Julia of San Diego Songbird and owner of Gunn & Swain and Seaesta Surf. As a busy mompreneur, she could completely relate. Together, we decided to host a mama’s chat night and have Cassidy lead us in a conversation. Self care was the main topic and how we sometimes lose our self in motherhood. Cassidy helped us hone in on how we can make sure to practice self-care in big and small ways. It lead to an insightful night full of support, love, thoughtfulness and camaraderie.
I’m so excited to share the beautiful photos by Brooke Aliceon and have this party also featured on Glitter Guide today! This was more than just a party to us, it was therapy…
When designing the table for this night I wanted everyone to feel close and comfortable. So we did low tables to the ground with lots of blankets and pillows to get down and dirty and chat it up. This was also easier for moms with little ones so they could be attentive to them and still join in on the talk. The color scheme was soft muted pink tones which looked so pretty in that golden light at sunset. We munched on the yummiest spread and drank rosé, the perfect addition to a night like this! It was a great way to end summer and focus on a new season in the year to practice more self love and care.
The party was held in Julia’s amazing backyard and the light was beyond gorgeous. Really, it was a magical night and looking at these photos makes my heart full.
Here is a little bit from Cassidy…
Community and connection can bring us to a place of healing. This happened for participating moms through asking for help from family and friends, or finding a local support group. Allowing others “in” to care for us can be a vulnerable experience, but when the risk of being vulnerable is taken, the mom’s in our circle found that they were able to engage with more Self-Care and found themselves re-energized to engage in motherhood and their work.
The idea of “balance” is a unicorn, it’s a myth. In order for something to be “balanced” you need perfect weight on either side, and perfection is just not attainable. Also, perfectionism is typically externally driven, “what will others think?” If we get in touch with our internal values and use those values to make the tough decisions of prioritizing, our day to day lives can slowly become more aligned with what’s most important to us. Sometimes that means pouring ourselves into our families, sometimes it means saying yes to our work or projects, sometimes it means acknowledging that we are running on fumes and need to say yes to ourselves.
We asked Cassidy to put together a few conversation starters for other mamas who wanted to throw a dinner party like this themselves… I can’t encourage a night like this enough! Grab your nearest girlfriends, a few bottles of wine and have these meaningful conversations…
5) Have there been times you’ve been able to overcome the Self-Care blocks? What allowed you to overcome those blocks?